Complimentarianism
This whole thing of not being able to find a job that I want to do has been getting me down. It's very lonely being at home all day by oneself. Couple the fact that I'm not sleeping well with lack of inspiration to get dressed properly has lead me to a slump, which I'm (hopefully mis-) labelling as an 'ugly stage' (I seem to go through one every 10 years or so). So in order to concentrate on lovely things to shake up me and maybe others who have been waiting too long for spring, today is compliments day!
Compliments are lovely aren't they? We all just love them. But the ones I love the most are the ones that are unexpected. Or come from somewhere I don't understand. It is these kind of compliments that make me think of myself in a different light. It points my idea of myself to look out a different window to see me and at different angle. And then I think "huh, the world is a pretty magical place".
Here's a couple that gave me pause because I never thought this way. These have really stuck with me through the years:
1. my mom's friend said that I have poise. I always thought that I was awkward and silly.
2. a regular customer at the pub I worked at said that I am a dark horse. I guess I liked the idea that I'm more than what I seem and that someone would take the energy to see that.
3. a work mate said that I had the aura of "I am life!". It made me cry. Best compliment ever! I always thought that I was pretty invisible and would not garner much thought.
Your turn! What are your best / most surprising compliments?
Compliments are lovely aren't they? We all just love them. But the ones I love the most are the ones that are unexpected. Or come from somewhere I don't understand. It is these kind of compliments that make me think of myself in a different light. It points my idea of myself to look out a different window to see me and at different angle. And then I think "huh, the world is a pretty magical place".
Here's a couple that gave me pause because I never thought this way. These have really stuck with me through the years:
1. my mom's friend said that I have poise. I always thought that I was awkward and silly.
2. a regular customer at the pub I worked at said that I am a dark horse. I guess I liked the idea that I'm more than what I seem and that someone would take the energy to see that.
3. a work mate said that I had the aura of "I am life!". It made me cry. Best compliment ever! I always thought that I was pretty invisible and would not garner much thought.
Your turn! What are your best / most surprising compliments?
Comments
I was told this last weekend that I approach things with a very mature, responsible and organized attitude that conveyed confidence and reliability. That will stick with me for a while!
Now a compliment for you:
You have sass. A lot of people try to have sass, but it ends up being a fake wooden veneer of the real thing. You've got the real thing.
And I agree with Katie - you have sass in the best kind of way :)
For me, I think the best compliments that I get are about my inner beauty - like when someone says I'm a loyal friend.
I got a really sweet compliment today. My colleague told me that she thought I was an amazing scholarly writer. That really almost made me cry. It's nice to be appreciated for things that I put a lot of work and effort on. And you, my dear, are a sweetie! You have the most darling little posts and the sweetest smile!
hearts, laura♥
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But you have to get out of the house. I recommend hanging out at the public library - free, but you do have to get dressed.